Originally published 21 June, 2011. Please note that when this was originally published, it was heavily gendered. I have since edited the post to be more gender-neutral, but I apologise if my sub par editing has missed any specifically gendered terms. ♥

I think penises are awesome. Frankly, I love the cock. And I think that is one of the most important aspects of being able to successfully and enjoyably deep throat someone – you have to be into the cock. So that brings us to step one of the Harlot’s Guide to Deepthroating;

Love Giving Head:

I find there is often a bit of a double-standard when it comes to head. As women, we get angry and let down when a man won’t eat us out (or won’t take the time to learn how to eat us out well), but for many of us, we don’t seem to love giving him head either. To successfully deep throat, you gotta want to have his cock in your mouth, and you are better off if you love feeling it in your throat, because that is where it needs to be for this activity to work..

When you get to deepthroating, you get to experience the fun and excitement of how a cock responds to stimulation (all that involuntary jerking and enlarging and so on) in a new way, but perhaps I am getting ahead of myself now, because first you are probably going to want to..

Practice!

If you want to just jump on in, then I salute you. But I assume you are reading this guide because that won’t or hasn’t worked out for you. Keep in mind that the worst that is likely to happen whilst deepthroating is that you gag, and perhaps vomit. Which is not the end of the world, but it is unpleasant. So take it slow, and practice. If you have a willing partner who is happy to let you practice on them, great! If not, then a dildo, or appropriately shaped vegetable will do the trick. If like me, you have a good range of dildos/vibrators in varying sizes, you can start small and work your way up. It’s a little like weight-training. Get comfortable with a smaller cock in your throat, then gradually work your way up. Lube it up and practice your angles and breathing, taking in more of the cock as you get progressively more comfortable with the sensation of something hard filling your throat.

Take It Slowly. Get Horny:

Those pornariffic screen goddesses weren’t all born with a magical deepthroating ability, and it’s okay for this to be something you work at and ease into. Just as it helps to love giving head to be really good at it, you also benefit from getting into the mood, and tending to your own arousal. So ask your partner to help get you in the mood first, or play with yourself while you give them head – whatever works for you. Make it hot and horny and fun – you might need to work at it but this isn’t supposed to be hard work (except that it is meant to be ‘hard’. Guffaw guffaw)! If you go into it worrying about your abilities or feeling anxious – you won’t be relaxed and you probably won’t enjoy it, and chances are neither will your partner. So build up to it, keep it lighthearted and if it doesn’t work out, there is nothing to say you can’t try again later.

The Right Angle:

But what angles should you be aiming for? For myself, and others I have spoken to, the best starter position for deepthroating is to have them standing, whilst you lie on your back with your head hanging just off the edge of the bed. Of course, this won’t work for everyone, and it will depend on the curve of the penis you are trying to deep throat as to what the best angle will be, but in general, this method should work out quite nicely.

Making sure their penis is lubricated (and take time to do this, either with an actual water-based lubricant, or a healthy amount of spit), slowly ease it into your mouth. Feel free to use your own hands to guide them in – this will give you an added level of control. Think about the shape of the penis and the angle of the inside of your mouth and throat: you want to be able to get your ‘deepthroating path’ as straight as possible, so tilt your head back as needed.

Don’t let your tongue get in the way just yet, drop it down to the bottom of your mouth, pushing it on or against the lower set of teeth so he slides over it with ease. Pacing is key here, so s-l-o-w-l-y pull their cock into your throat, and hold it there (remember to breathe). Get comfortable with the sensation of a live cock in your throat, before you try to do anything else with it!

Another method is with them standing, kneel in front of them; this way allows you to get that straight line by tilting your head upwards, and still allows you to take control with your hands. You can also rock this on all fours, once again, it is about finding what makes you comfortable, and what works best for you and your partner.

Once you figure out the angle that works for you, you can knock it up a notch. Slowly start to suck and slide your mouth closer to the base of the penis. Assuming you are relaxed, the cock is well-lubed and your angles are right, you should be able to get most or all of it down. If you have the ability to, try sliding your tongue around the lower side of their cock, or tugging on their balls. I’ve known many a man who lost their minds with a cock down a throat and a finger or two in their arse – but that’s not for everyone, I know!

Lubrication:

I mentioned lubricant a few times, but it bears repeating. If your mouth and throat is dry, or if their cock is dry, you aren’t going to get very far. And it will be a scratchy, chafing experience for all. Yuck. So get lubing! If flavours are your thing, then there is a wide world of flavoured lubricants, some of which are available here and here. Otherwise, any good lubricant will do the trick. I’ve had some wicked DT successes with extra virgin coconut oil*.

You may find that once you start to take more of the cock into your throat, you naturally respond with a whole lotta saliva. Don’t be squicked out by this, embrace the spit and use it to your advantage!

*Coconut oil is my wonder-lube of choice, but being that it is an oil – it isn’t okay to use with latex. So if you are using condoms, stick to a water-based lubricant, okay? xx

Time To Come:

One thing that you’ll want to discuss BEFORE you are unable to speak due to all that cock stuffed in your mouth is whether it is okay for them to come while you are deepthroating them. If you don’t swallow – you probably don’t want to let them come in your throat any more than you would let them come in your mouth. Trust me, spitting out come that is sliding down the far recesses of your throat is nigh on impossible. You and your partner should chat and decide what will work best for you, and remember, there is no shame in wanting them to come in your mouth, or on your face or wherever works for you. Fuck this idea that your partner’s ejaculate on your body is inherently degrading, it isn’t.

I hope this has given some people some helpful pointers to get them on the path to deepthroating. Please feel free to share any of your own tips and tricks in the comments below!

xxLauren