International #Fisting Day!!
Happy International Fisting Day, everybody! Yes, you read right; the inaugural International Fisting Day takes place today, the 21st of October 2011 (or perhaps tomorrow, depending on your part of the world).
Two of my favourite queer pornstars, Courtney Trouble and Jiz Lee, have had enough of the stringent porn industry ‘guidelines’ that keep fisting from being shown in all its erotic glory, which is undoubtedly offensive to any fist-loving porn viewer, but not necessarily known about by these aforementioned fist-loving porn viewers.
This is why International Fisting Day is such a great initiative, not only is it a call to action, it’s an awareness campaign! Check out the posts by founders Jiz Lee, where she details how censoring fisting is essentially discriminating against queer sex, and Courtney Trouble, who details the actions you can take on her blog (and gives a bangin’ interview over on the San Fran Bay Guardian blog).
Beyond awareness and calling for action, I think International Fisting Day is a great day to celebrate fisting; an intimate, hugely erotic and often orgasmic act that doesn’t get the recognition it deserves. From my straighter, less kink-inclined friends, I get the impression that fisting doesn’t feature much or at all in their sex lives, and if it does, they sure as hell aren’t talking about it over drinks with me.
Nina Hartley & Jiz Lee in: Live Sex Show
I’ve seen discussion of fisting as a lesbian sex act, and whilst this is absolutely true, I think looking at fisting outside of the queer box is important; straight people can and do enjoy being fisted, vaginally and/or anally. And for a heterosexual cis-woman, to be able to experience extreme pleasure with a partner without the use of a phallus, can be something of a revolutionary experience.
Me? I love fisting. I love being fisted and I love doing the fisting. It’s an act that, for me, requires a little more tenderness than most sexual acts, especially with my large-handed boyfriend. Thankfully, he’s always up for being inside my body in that way, and we’ve had some amazing experiences.
Should you already be a fan of the fist, chances are you have it worked out, but for those who haven’t and are perhaps a little intimidated by it all, I’d like to recommend some great reads:
- The ever-gorgeous Tristan Taormino loves it in the arse, and details her experience with anal fisting over on her blog, Pucker Up.
- One Hand In The Bush: The Art of Vaginal Fisting is an excellent, excellent read. Also, the author, Deborah Addington, was interviewed by Vice Magazine, which can be read at Vice.com.
- Bill Brent’s The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men has a chapter dedicated to anal fisting, and the entire guide is an invaluable resource for anally fucking men.
Of course, like many sex acts, you are going to want to use a lot of lubricant and for non-fluid bonded fisting partners, safer fisting involves the use of latex (or non-latex polymer) gloves. As an extra tip from a fisting femme: a little wad of cotton wool in the fingers of the glove decreases the risk of slicing through the glove with your manicured nails! Brilliant!
When you are done getting your fist’ on, make sure you check out Queer Porn Tube, where there will be plenty of discussion, video and photographs celebrating International Fisting Day.
I’m home alone today, so am celebrating online by checking into the #fisting Twitter feed and celebrating offline by doing plenty of yoga-inspired stretching and seeing how close I can come to fisting myself! I would love to hear your thoughts on fisting and International Fisting Day, and what you are doing to celebrate, create awareness or take action! Leave me a comment below!
xx Harlot
So, International Fisting Day… I wonder if there’s a greeting card for this?
I’ve never tried it myself but always enjoyed what I’ve seen online. I think that’s mainly from it being female pleasure orientated. It isn’t just a couple of plastic porn stars doing gymnastics on a white leather sofa till the cum shot… and scene. The whole point of it is to get the “fistee” off and that really shows through.
With information, lots of lube and a carnal want to be filled with pure pleasure fisting can be devine,my first experience was as a fister its comical now but at the time it was terrifying,my lovely ex lover and I were fooling around bckstage at a gay boy dance venue ,it was pants off fucking underneath a table,my partner who was previously non chalant about being penetrated at all had found her bottom mojo and I was making the most of it ,with four fingers fucking her hard I found myself “accidently” slipping my thumb in aswell (I have tiny hands) when I realised in my quite intoxicated state what was happening I had a moment of “oh shit wtf am I doing”and checked in with my lover and she was riding on the end of a massive orgasm .It wasnt how I expected to fist someone for the first time but fortunately it was well received .Following that fisting became something I loved to do but didnt specifically seek out,I have had some amazing experiences with women of all orientations and have become very confident as a fister .For myself I am open to well just about anything,its mind over matter for moi and I have not entered a space yet that I want to be fisted,but I have no doubt I will
that was my fisting story
thanks to Harlot for her great piece
Kit the femme fatale
Fuck yeah fisting! So far attempts with my partner have been unsuccessful, but I don’t rule out the possibility of it in the future.