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May 13, 2012
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Life got crazy, folks.
Site overhaul and refreshed state of blogging coming soon.
Watch this space. xxx
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Filmclip Porn
December 15, 2011
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When I was a teenager, we didn’t have the Internet, and we certainly didn’t have ADSL/Broadband speeds and streaming media? Didn’t exist. So there was no easy way to obtain and view pornography, and I was never particularly interested in porn rags or videos until I was nearing the end of my teenage years.
But I was interested in sex. Very, very interested. I used to think about sex all the time, I was forthright in asking for sexual activity from people. I was the one busting out cheesy moves and finding excuses to unclip and remove my bra when making out with someone at a party. I was also interested in sexual imagery, I would read and reread the more salacious parts of the novels I owned, and staying up late, smoking cheeky joints and taping Rage ended up being a good way to amass a selection of filmclips that were essentially treated as porn; great viewing whilst wanking.
Even watching certain filmclips now makes me feel like a horny, excited teenager again, and I just want to rub up against anyone that will let me. I know this, because at a dinner party-turned-rowdy Youtube party on the weekend, I played this clip and my gin-soaked mind turned incredibly dirty, and I had to remind myself that I was in polite company.
How about you? Any filmclips that make you want to get down and dirty (with yourself or with others)?
Migrant Sex Workers in Australia
November 12, 2011
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Recently, in Australia, there has been a renewed spate of lobbying for legislation changes around sex work (or, prostitution, as it is still referred to in the legislation of most states).
In Perth, there is a lot of discussion and concern around new prostitution laws being billed. Hexpletive shared their concerns in handy point form a few months ago, and the discussions and concerns we are seeing now echo those listed there.
One of the concerns is, of course, that migrant sex workers will be adversely affected and discriminated against, more than they already are.
In NSW, an alleged 19 year old virgin is set to sell her virginity via the escort agency, My Outcall Australia (buyer gets four days of her time for a cool $15,000). I saw a lot of moral outrage on Facebook and Twitter, and cries of ‘sex slavery’ and ‘trafficking’ kicking about, despite there being no obvious indication that this was the case.*
Maybe it’s because Four Corners saw fit to recently air a story, complete with the requisite doom and gloom soundtrack and imagery, on the issue of trafficking. Whilst trafficking of women and forced prostitution is undeniably a real concern, it’s not confined to the sex industry and the laws around sex work do *nothing* to prevent it from happening.
I know this is a link-infested overview and not a particularly nuanced view on the issues, but other people with better qualifications discuss this in a far more articulate manner than I could hope to, which brings us to this video, featuring Fiona Patten (Australian Sex Party) and Elena Jeffreys (Scarlet Alliance) discussing the issues of migrant sex work, trafficking and exploitation in Australia. It’s well worth a watch.
*I do want to discuss the construct of virginity and the monetisation of that construct, but that’ll have to wait for another day. I have essays to write, yo.
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Elena Jeffreys, Fiona Patten, migrant sex work, sex work, trafficking, virginity
e[lust] 31: Writing that will make you hard and writing that will make you think.
November 11, 2011
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Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #32 ? Start with the rules, come back in January to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
A Feminist Defense of Consensual Nonconsent – How does a woman who identifies as a feminist reconcile her desire to submit to her partner during sex? Being somewhat new to kink, I had some trepidations about how submission seemingly went against my ethics.
Intimates – As the evening drew on, I felt like the sexiest woman alive. It’s strange to describe it this way, but I actually felt brimming with a sort of sexual energy. A lustiness, a sexiness, an allure and a desire all at once.
Tightest Space – I’m paying close attention to your moans, and I stop whenever it feels like it might be too much. But the incredibly tight feeling of your ass gripping my cock is so delicious that I need to get all the way in.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
An Open Letter to the Sex Toy Industry – I write this post not to just let off some steam but with the smallest glimmer of hope that maybe…….just maybe….some of these words will land on the right computer screen and be taken to heart. Maybe one change will happen.
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
International #Fisting Day!! – Beyond awareness and calling for action, I think International Fisting Day is a great day to celebrate fisting; an intimate, hugely erotic and often orgasmic act that doesn’t get the recognition it deserves.
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
International #Fisting Day!!
October 21, 2011
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Happy International Fisting Day, everybody! Yes, you read right; the inaugural International Fisting Day takes place today, the 21st of October 2011 (or perhaps tomorrow, depending on your part of the world).
Two of my favourite queer pornstars, Courtney Trouble and Jiz Lee, have had enough of the stringent porn industry ‘guidelines’ that keep fisting from being shown in all its erotic glory, which is undoubtedly offensive to any fist-loving porn viewer, but not necessarily known about by these aforementioned fist-loving porn viewers.
This is why International Fisting Day is such a great initiative, not only is it a call to action, it’s an awareness campaign! Check out the posts by founders Jiz Lee, where she details how censoring fisting is essentially discriminating against queer sex, and Courtney Trouble, who details the actions you can take on her blog (and gives a bangin’ interview over on the San Fran Bay Guardian blog).
Beyond awareness and calling for action, I think International Fisting Day is a great day to celebrate fisting; an intimate, hugely erotic and often orgasmic act that doesn’t get the recognition it deserves. From my straighter, less kink-inclined friends, I get the impression that fisting doesn’t feature much or at all in their sex lives, and if it does, they sure as hell aren’t talking about it over drinks with me.
Nina Hartley & Jiz Lee in: Live Sex Show
I’ve seen discussion of fisting as a lesbian sex act, and whilst this is absolutely true, I think looking at fisting outside of the queer box is important; straight people can and do enjoy being fisted, vaginally and/or anally. And for a heterosexual cis-woman, to be able to experience extreme pleasure with a partner without the use of a phallus, can be something of a revolutionary experience.
Me? I love fisting. I love being fisted and I love doing the fisting. It’s an act that, for me, requires a little more tenderness than most sexual acts, especially with my large-handed boyfriend. Thankfully, he’s always up for being inside my body in that way, and we’ve had some amazing experiences.
Should you already be a fan of the fist, chances are you have it worked out, but for those who haven’t and are perhaps a little intimidated by it all, I’d like to recommend some great reads:
- The ever-gorgeous Tristan Taormino loves it in the arse, and details her experience with anal fisting over on her blog, Pucker Up.
- One Hand In The Bush: The Art of Vaginal Fisting is an excellent, excellent read. Also, the author, Deborah Addington, was interviewed by Vice Magazine, which can be read at Vice.com.
- Bill Brent’s The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men has a chapter dedicated to anal fisting, and the entire guide is an invaluable resource for anally fucking men.
Of course, like many sex acts, you are going to want to use a lot of lubricant and for non-fluid bonded fisting partners, safer fisting involves the use of latex (or non-latex polymer) gloves. As an extra tip from a fisting femme: a little wad of cotton wool in the fingers of the glove decreases the risk of slicing through the glove with your manicured nails! Brilliant!
When you are done getting your fist’ on, make sure you check out Queer Porn Tube, where there will be plenty of discussion, video and photographs celebrating International Fisting Day.
I’m home alone today, so am celebrating online by checking into the #fisting Twitter feed and celebrating offline by doing plenty of yoga-inspired stretching and seeing how close I can come to fisting myself! I would love to hear your thoughts on fisting and International Fisting Day, and what you are doing to celebrate, create awareness or take action! Leave me a comment below!
xx Harlot
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What happens when you cross a sex toy with a game controller?
October 14, 2011
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You get this:
Yep, designers of swanky, luxury sex toys, LELO, have taken notes from the Nintendo Wii motion technology and implemented it into their new remote-controlled range of sex toys. Which, if you are a bit of a tech-sex nerd like me, will make you unbelievably happy.
I’ve had the opportunity to play with Lyla and Tiani, two of the three LELO sensemotion toys, and they are ridiculously cool gadgets. Our busy street-testing confirmed that you get at least 12 metres of control distance with these waterproof, silicone toys, which should be enough distance that you can wear the toy while your partner controls you from any other room in the house. Like LELO’s other Insignia products (Soraya, Isla and Alia), these toys come presented in a gorgeous black box with Insignia pin, a silk toy bag and all the other bits and pieces you’ll require. This is also a surprisingly affordable toy (as compared to other LELO products), especially when you consider that the controller vibrates as well (so you know what your partner is feeling) and there is nothing to stop you from using it as an external second toy (think nipples, back, perineum, balls, etc). The controls take a little bit of getting used to, so don’t worry if you make a tit of yourself like the guy in the promo video when you are getting used to using it. I found that fast jerky movements didn’t get a good response from the toy, but constant, flowing movements seemed to be the way to go.
Of course, for the non-tech loving types, this might just be far more fuss than they want to deal with, so maybe not the best gift for that older neighbour who is always bugging you to connect their VCR for them.. assuming you have that kind of gift-buying friendship with your neighbours. I hope you do, there isn’t enough sense of community in this country any more.
But I digress, toys like LELO’s sensemotion range (along with OhMiBod’s Ipod-powered vibes) give us exciting new ways to experience pleasure and play, and even though I spend every other day surrounded by sex toys, I’m totally grateful that innovative companies are still finding ways to impress me and get me off.
edit: Oh, and if you intend to buy any LELO products, consider doing so from my affiliate link located in the right-hand panel of my blog. I don’t blog for profit, but any affiliate money I make goes into helping cover the costs of my domain name, etc. Thanks! xHarlot
Review: Man Trap (JoyBear Pictures)
September 23, 2011
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I finally had a chance to view Man Trap, a feature-length pornographic film from JoyBear Pictures. JoyBear are a UK-based company who are building a name for themselves by making erotic films for ‘him and her’.
The film plays out like a documentary; ‘Man Trap’ is a service set up to catch out cheating husbands (groan), by luring them into sexual encounters with stunning women. The proprietor of Man Trap speaks ‘candidly’ with a journalist, and from this, the sex scenes are woven into the film.
The actors are conventionally attractive without seeming completely unrealistic (no fake boobs here), which I can only assume is a conscious decision to make this film more appealing to it’s female audience. There is also a smattering of ink and steel with the cast, (which I will readily admit to being a sucker for), but not so much that you could slot it into your ‘alt-porn’ folder.
Man Trap has a total of six scenes, which quantity-wise, is certainly value for money. Quality-wise is a different story. Don’t get me wrong – the camera work is lovely and the sets are just fine. The actors all seem very happy to be there and these are all good, comforting things. But, to me at least, this film is just a little bit.. boring.
There is a big focus on mutual oral pleasure and standard hetero penetrative sex, and not a roughly pulled handful of hair or spat-on face to be seen. There is some light toy use, a little in the water action (always nice) and a slightly questionable girl/girl scene (if this is for HER, why does it feel like it’s still rocking that male gaze?)
The sex scenes follow the standard ‘from one position to the next; repeat until orgasm’ style of fucking, and sadly, what Man Trap seems to lack is passion. It’s very *nice*, but I just don’t find it very hot.
What this film does do well, is provide a nice, non-threatening option for ‘him and her’, and I am sure there are plenty of women out there who would happily pick Man Trap over, say, Can He Score 8. I’m pleased that companies like JoyBear exist, because there is undoubtedly a market for softer hardcore (and because porn needs more British accents), but I’m just not that market.
Big thanks go to JoyBear Pictures for providing me with a copy of Man Trap, and allowing me the chance to view and review it.
Categories: Film, Pornography, Review
joybear pictures, man trap, pornographic film, uk porn
#HPVday
September 16, 2011
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Today is a day to discuss HPV. It’s a virus that will, according to the stats, affect 80% of Australian adults. It’s also the most common cause of cervical cancer.
Not as cute as the plush microbe would suggest!
I had HPV. I had entirely inadequate sex education and there were no symptoms; I had no idea that I was very close to having cervical cancer at the age of 18. Thankfully, I also had my first pap smear at 18 and the cervical intraepithelial neoplasia was picked up. Some painful surgery was performed and I was monitored regularly in case it reappeared. It didn’t and the virus left my system.
There is no shame in contracting a virus, despite what society would like you to believe. Regular pap smears and practising safer sex can save your life. If you are overdue for a check up, think about booking in an appointment with your sexual health carer or GP. 
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#hpvday, #ihadhpv, cervical cancer, cervical dysplasia, hpv, Human papillomavirus, pap smear, sexual health
Brilliant reading (from people far more articulate than myself)
September 13, 2011
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In addition to the very good reads on e[lust], I wanted to share these three gems with you. The first two made me nod my head enthusiastically and think ‘YES! Exactly this!’. The third is just one of the hottest blog entries I’ve had the privilege of reading in quiet a while.
The first piece comes from fantastic Australian feminist blog collective, Feminaust, and sensibly discusses art, children, nudity and moral panic in The art of representation: nude children in photography.
The second piece so accurately sums up how I felt when reading ‘The Porn Ultimatum’ (The Monthly, September 2011) by much-respected cognitive neuroscientist and author, Cordelia Fine, that I want to buy Ultra Hedonist a [insert clever, witty & smutty gift here]. Do yourself a favour and read part one of Always with the gagging: a response to Cordelia Fine.
And finally, a blog post (which has promptly found a place in my literary spank bank) from one of my favourite blogging deviants; the beautiful Miss O writes In Which Miss O Proves Herself to be a Filthy Little Slut.
xHarlot
Categories: Feminism, Pornography, Sex
art, Bill Henson, blogging, Cordelia Fine, links, photography, pornography wars, rough sex, sex blogging, sexualisation of childrens
